Energy Vampires - The Space Invader

During the month of October, I'm adding to my Empath Collective library. This is one of the biggest projects I’ve taken on throughout the whole time my Empath Collective has been together. 

I’ve been working on this project for several months. It’s on the topic of Energy Vampires. 🧛🏻‍♀️ 

I’ve been hesitant to cover this topic for a few reasons: 

1. I'm really careful about the energy surrounding each topic. If it's too negative, it might bring people down.
2. I'm also careful around labels because labels can stick and I believe that people really can change.

If you think you might have an energy vampire in your life, you’ll definitely want to keep reading and you might even want to email [email protected] and let me know your biggest challenge and I'll send my 3 favorite resources to deal with energy vampires. 

First things first... You've probably noticed that I frequently talk about energy fields. Yes, we all have this energetic border around us that determines our comfort level. This is also known as personal space. 

This can look different for everyone. Personally, I get drained by crowds, loud talking, and personal space invaders. Now, I want you to think about what this feels like when your personal space is "invaded". 

Here are a few feelings you might experience: 

• You might feel drained. Remember when we talked about feeling like you've been hit with a tranquilizer dart? Yep... something like that.
• You might feel anxious. It's that overwhelming feeling that seems to come out of nowhere. You might even feel trapped by someone else's presence or energy.
• You might feel unexpectedly emotional.
• You can even have an uncomfortable physical sensation like feeling nauseous or dizzy.

Okay - so we all know how that feels, right?

But I’m here to give you some helpful strategies on how to deal with this certain type of energy vampire - The Space Invader - not something out of a Sci-Fi show, but real-life invaders of your actual space. 

1. Map out your personal space. This will keep you from taking on other people's physical or emotional stress. Especially if you're a physical empath or emotional empath.
2. Start thinking about how many inches or feet you really need to keep during conversations. This will take a bit of practice, but once you really pay attention, you'll start mapping it out.
3. Keep in mind that your personal space will vary depending on the individual. Think about your comfort level with a close, trusting friend vs. a person who tends to pry into your personal life a bit too much.

    

For me? Unless I’m really close to a person, 3-5 feet is ideal when I’m in public spaces. If I’m in a crowded aisle at a store, I get a little panicky and cut my shopping trip short. 

Do you notice that you have a certain comfort level when it comes to a Space Invader? This is very important information to know about yourself so you can plan ahead.

Take note of different situations and ask for what you need if someone doesn’t respond to your physical cues. I mean, not everyone responds to subtle cues. This will require you to step out of your comfort zone a bit. 

Your efforts will certainly be worth it.